Hi Kermit,
Thanks for posting your question. Our boat has the same issue only multiplied by two other factors and I've been trying to see the logic of sailmaker or rigger who sold this idea to the PO.
The main sail is on a roller furling that is external to the mast. This must predate the inmast furlers of today but has similar features. It's loose footed with an outhaul on a track the length of the boom so it can be reefed at any length. However being external it has sunbrella (like) fabric on the leech and foot to protect it from UV's while furled, just like a headsail. Visually it looks good and the concept may work with a new sail, but the problem I've had this summer is identical to yours.
The boltrope has shrunk and I suspect the sunbrella has done the same. Raising the main I can crank the halyard tight with a winch and the main is still wrinkled along the luff. Opening the sail I can tension the foot with a winch and the sunbrella is similarly tight. The leech, having sunbrella on it, is also tight when tightening the main sheet and vang. The main may have at one time looked great, but it has stretched over time and looks like granny's bloomers.
I talked with a local sailmaker who's first response was "I wondered when you were going to come in." During the launch ride to our mooring he described the moodiness of our boat and the final kicker is when the wind picks up the furler bows aft because the only support is the cable from the masthead to the boom inside the furling foil. We talked a lot of options for this sail and changing the rigging, mast, and/or boom and I told him I'd think on it for a while.
I spent several evenings reading older posts on this site and trying solutions others have had and then we went for a two-week cruise.
Downwind was great, pointing was poor, and coming about slowed us down to a crawl. Raising the main had little effect on boat speed and as the wind increased we couldn't spill the wind to get the telltales to stream but we heeled over nicely.
Next summer we'll have the furler removed, a new traditional main with full battens, and a boat that doesn't fight the helm. Thanks again to all that post on this website.
All U Get