It took a bit of muscle to connect the forestay (we connected the mast to the slots and not the single round position). Could we have the mast in the wrong position?
And one other odd note...the guides (?)/cable along the sides of the boat were limp when the mast was down, and now tight as all get out with the mast up! That really surprised me.
Jay
as for the connection point, a photo would help.... the forestay should connect in to the forward hole.... the jib will connect to the rearward hole.
you need a turn buckle or better yet, a johnson lever to attach and adjust the forestay. if you can attach or detach it without loosening it somehow, something isnt right.
and i am assuming you are talking about the lifelines around your boat. they should never be tight, but not have excessive slack in them either. usually, if the boat has set for awhile without the mast in it and/or rigging not tensioned properly, the hull can relax a little and the lifelines will sag a bit more than would be normally proper for them.
but when the mast is stepped and tensioned up properly the lifelines may tighten up only a small amount that only someone familiar with the boat would notice that they are tighter.
when you initially tension up the rig after stepping the mast, in the next few days it will loosen up a bit as the hull settles in with the strain on it, and then it will need to be reset to get it proper, usually this only involves retensioning the forestay. BUT... if the rigging and rake has never been set properly, now is the time to do get it right. after it is set correctly, you should be able to use the forestay for any minor tension changes and/or lowering the mast. the shrouds should never have to be touched unless there is some modifications being made that require a different setting.
IF.... the lifelines are tight with the proper tension on the rig, whereas they were loose before, i would take a serious look at the compression post below the mast. the boat MUST have a solid connection so the rigging/mast can pull against the lower part of the hull where the strength lies... a solid foundation to build on.
if there is any rot in the post or shims missing, it can severely distort the hull by pushing the coachroof down too low, causing the sides to bulge and letting the boat lose its integral design strength.... which will can cause the lifelines to get tight.