Which Nuts?
I think you might be referring to the bearing hub nuts rather than the wheel lug nuts. Lug nuts are torqued up like normal wheels on any vehicle, but the big hub nut (one on each wheel) in the center is generally pretty close to finger tight. When repacking and replacing bearings, you want to "seat" them snugly, then back off just a little on the nut so that they can roll freely. It is better to have just a little bit of free play than to have tension on them. As you tighten the hub nut, spin the wheel by hand and you will feel its resistance increase when the bearings start to bind - back off just a little til the wheel spins with noticeably less resistance, and they will be about right. You definitely DO NOT want to torque them up to wheel lug specs - that would pulverize the bearings in short order. Make sure each one has a castellated nut or castellated cover with a cotter, or some other locking device so that once you have set them, they won't back off. Once the wheel is mounted and everything is set to go, pull in and out on the circumference of the tire - there should be zero to very slight free play, but the wheel should spin relatively freely. When you have driven several miles, stop and feel the outside of the bearing hub with your hand - it can feel a little warm, but if it is hot you need to check it out.