That is how my head is too. I have a 1977 Catalina standard rig.
I took the original toilet out this spring and am intending to put replace that and completely replumb with new hoses after the summer. I've seen a lot of posts and articles about venting the intake between the through hull and the toilet too.
I was going to just install the vented loop on the bulkhead in the head and assume the plumping would add to the 'look' of a sailboat.
However, I could make an argument that if I only use the head at anchor, then I don't need the vented loop and if I did need to use it while sailing (no matter what the heel angle), then I would just shut the through hull off when not in use.
Since I have till next summer...I'll let you sink your boat and let me know!
Just kidding! Sounds like we're on the same path...
Keep me posted.
Chris