I figure that at any point of sail the tension in the jib stays is going to increase as the wind picks up. Imagine you were able to pull sideways on the mid point of one of those stays, that will put both a side force and a forward force on the mast, the forward force being much more than the sideward one.
In the case of the jib the uppers and backstay will appose the force pruduced by the jib.
In the case of the staysail the inner forestay will put a force on the mast that will tend to pull it forward, out of column and that is what the backstays must counter.
My understanding of rig tuning is that the real test is how well the mast stays in column under all conditions.
Figuring that if the wind was really screaming I would probably be sailing under staysail and double reefed main I had the second reef put in so that the head of the sail would be well below the running backstays and would have the backstays far enough aft to clear the boom so they could stay in position on all points of sail. That would be pretty much at #4 as Ed says. Fortunatley (or unfortunatley) I have not had to test this yet.
As an add to the above, I have been told by a rigger that the toe rail should not be relied on and dedicated eyes would be better for this purpose.
I will be interested to read what other have to say.
John Brecher