Attach your back stay if you are raising the mast from aft of the step plate. Attach any upper or lower shrouds that are directly AT or AFT of the mast centerline. Thus, as you raise the mast by hauling the gin pole to the deck, the back stay will stop it at vertical, and the shrouds will stabilize it laterally.
Most gin pole setups pull the forestay to the deck. Sounds like yours is a little different.
You can YouTube gin pole mast raising. The gin pole will hold the mast, and you can steer it with the gin pole as you raise it.
In the above photo, the forestay with furler attached is connect to the top side of the end of the gin pole. The 4:1 block with cam cleat (boom vang setup w 70 ft of line) is attached to the underside of the gin pole at one end and the forestay chainplate at the other. Hauling the line pulls the gin pole to the deck which hauls the forestay and hence the mast with it!
Note: the shrouds are midline with the mast on the Oday, so they can stay attached during raising and lowering. The back stay is also attached to stop the mast at vertical. Once the mast is vertical hard against the back stay, have someone hold it, or run a halyard to the bow pulpit to hold the mast. Then disconnect the block and forestay from the gin pole. Connect the forestay to the chainplate. You are done!