dmdorey: Here's the problem. Space would not permit a good answer to your problem so lets go to the basics. There are 8 primary sail trim controls for the mainsail (some boats have less than 8). They are the traveler, mainsheet, outhaul, cunningham, boom vang, mast bend and leech cord. I could throw in another one, which is not a sail trim control, and that is crew position. These controls are like a car carb, with 8 jets. Just as with the car engine, all the jets have to work together. For every point of sail and wind condition there is a particular setting for each of these controls. If you only have some of the controls set properly the rest are working against you.
That takes care of the mainsail. Now, to further complicate things, we have to factor in the jib sail trim controls. They have their settings for each point of sail and wind condition. The jib and the mainsail have to mirror each other.
Before you can start messing with the sail trim controls you have to have an understanding of draft depth, draft position, twist and angle of attack. Without a complete understanding of those terms sail trim will never make any sense.
Pop on over to the SAIL TRIM FORUM and print off the section on downwind sailing. Unfortunately, there is not a lot written about sailing downwind. When I was racing I could always pick off one or two boats on that leg. Fortunately for me that leg was when most crews broke out the beer and sandwiches - that's when I went to work. Some times I was able to hold that lead to the finish and sometimes not.