It can be done, but there's a major drawback...
There is no "kit" to do what you want to do...but it can be done with a couple of y-valves, a little hose, and either a manual diaphragm pump or a macerator. The y-valves and hose are needed to create the "by-pass" for the pump...'cuz a pump directly inline with the deck pumpout would prevent a dock pumpout from being able to pull anything out of the tank...it would block the line.You'd also need about 6-8' of hose to dangle over the side, with a cam coupler and threaded fitting on it to attach to your deck fitting (unless you want to make it 2 person job--one person holding one of those neoprene "universal" fittings tightly into the fitting, the other below pumping).So far, so good...you have the system installed, and it works...but now we come to the drawback: Unless you also come up with a means of rinsing out that piece of hose which dangles over the side, you're gonna have about 6-8' of smelly hose to store aboard. IMO, the smartest thing you can do is run a hose to the existing thru-hull and install either a macerator or a good quality electric diaphragm pump (SeaLand T-Pump is your best choice) to empty the tank. Properly installed, it can easily move the tank contents that far. And the cost isn't much more--maybe even less--than all the parts to do what you think you want to do.