Sheeting the jib
The jib should be sheeted so that the telltales on both sides of the luff are streaming horizontally, with those on the windward side dipping 20 to 30 percent of the time from wave action.From your description, it sounds like you are over sheeting the jib. So the windward telltales would be streaming horizontal, while the leeward telltales (the ones you see through the sail) would be relaxed and drooping down. If so, ease the jib sheet until the leeward telltales are streaming.On the main, the telltales are on the trailing edge (the leach). They should all be streaming straight back. If the main is sheeted too tight, the telltales will fall off behind the leach. Ease the sheet until they are all streaming.Tactics and dynamics. If you are doing all of the above, but the gusts have a wide range (say from 10 to 20 knots - I saw these conditions when sailing behind an island in a 20 knot breeze last month - then the boat slows in the 10 knot breeze. When the gust hits, there will be a dramatic shift aft in the apparent wind direction because the true 20 knot wind is 5 times your speed of around 4 knots instead of the 2.5 times of the previous 10 knot wind. Until the boat accelerates and/or the gust eases a little, the apparent wind (seen by you and the sails) is coming much more from the side, and there is really no way to set the sail to handle both wind velocities.By the way, when the gust hits, the telltales on both sails will say that they are over sheeted. The best response (with trimmers on both sheets) is to ease both sheets when the gust hits, then sheet back in as the boat accelerates, and the gust steadies off. Sailing with just me and the Admiral, I may keep the sheets undertrimmed at ten knots, then ease the mainsheet to control heeling (and generate drive) when the gust hits. The idea is to convert the gust as much as possible into acceleration, rather than heeling, and sheet in as the boat accelerates.If these tactics don't do the job with a reef in the main, then I would put a 10 percent reef in the jib, too, giving up power in the 10 knot breeze to be more ready (and comfortable) when the 20 knot gust hits.DavidLady Lillie