I am having a crisis of confidence.I have recently been crewing on a J-30 as the mainsail trimmer and the skipper has me trimming the main differently that what I do on my San Juan 21.The crisis centers around the two rules involving the top batten being parallel to the boom and the top tell tale flying or not.On my SJ 21, I don’t worry much about the batten being parallel and maintain the top tell tale either streaming aft in winds over 10 and popping out 50% or so in winds under that. This will make the top of the sail twist a lot in light winds.On the j-30, the skipper wants the top batten parallel dispite the fact the top tell tale is back winded constantly. Another skipper on a Catalina 320 also insisted on this.So, what is the best way of setting the main???