The Haven
My life long dream of owning and living on a sailboat, combined with the economics of living in the city of Boston (recently quietly surged by San Francisco as number 2 most expensive in the United States), led my girlfriend, myself, and the cat down the road of purchasing our 84 H40 specifically to live on in Boston Harbor. We could not have a home/apartment and a boat, so we chose the sensible one (for sailors anyway).Quick observations:It goes against the beliefs of our culture that we all DESERVE the utmost in comfort and luxury. You bump into things. You have to get out of each others way all the time. You have to face the fact that you chose to do this to yourself and analyze your decision, every day. And we are only two on a 40 footer with 14 feet of beam, certainly roomy in comparison to some.It is amazingly educational. I can't express all the input that you process wihtout realizing it. Weather, wind direction, fetch, the best way to tie your boat off, etc. You become so in tune with how everything works best and worst, specifically the head and your water system, from inlet to pumps.Interpersonal relationships get stronger. If you have trouble on a two week cruise, then living aboard will force you to figure out why and do something about it. It isn't enough space to be able to work around each other. Everything is out in the open because there is nowhere to hide it, nowhere to go away from the other person. There is no light at the end of the tunnel when things will return to normal and we can kiss and makeup. Whatever causes a problem is addressed, discussed, fixed, and gone. It is hard in many ways, but we have never spent more time around each other content for the moment because there is nothing to dwell on. And by resolving these often trivial problems, in many ways life has never been consistently easier. To sum up, the most powerful thing about living on a boat is how different a frame of reference it gives you. I believe it is an invalueable tool in helping me approach life and how I want to live. Even if it is for a short while, the things you experience change you for the better. You are different, whether you like it or not. Some people will find you endlessly interesting, some will think you are looney. Either way you are dynamic in an often times mundane, status quo world. It is natural, spiritual, wonderful, and hard. And you never know which one of those it wil be. Things break, weather turns, you don't sleep because of a certain wind direction. Then the next night you see the most spectacular sunset you have ever seen. Of course, you have to go to bed immediately after because you didn't sleep the night before. But, in the end, it is something that everyone should do if you love boats. If you hate it, you will learn and grow. If you love it, you will learn and grow, just with a smile on your face.