Hi Everyone... I'm new here... and new to sailing. My partner and I purchased a 1985 36' Catalina. It has a (from what we were told) 4'7" Shoal draft. My problem, I was always afraid of flipping in a sail boat and never wanted to get one. Not because I don't want to get wet, but because a boat is expensive and I don't want to destroy or damage our boat! Well, we were told we couldn't flip, broach or laydown this boat unless we went out during a hurricane. We were doing great every weekend and some times during the week, sailing out around outside our marina in the Gulf of Mexico! We were having a great time not going anywhere and just sailing around and learing. Then Gregg read about Broaching. The site he read stated broaching can happen and is common when sailing under full sail, (and I think on a broad reach) when heeling at 15-20 degrees and a Gust comes along and blows you over. It stated it can happen very fast and unexpectedly. That worried us... but the following day we were out with two friends and were sailing along when all of a sudden a gust hit us and tipped us farther than we had ever heeled. Gregg tried to steer out of it but it just got worse. Then the gust died and we steadied out. That scared the heck out of us.. but we couldn't let our friends see that! But that killed that day of sailing for us. We were glad we had read about Broaching the night before (or should we have?). The following weekend, we went out again, this time with two other friends (funny how many friends you have when you buy a boat). Again, we were sailing along and were hit by a gust and again Gregg Tried to steer out of it but I could hear the panic in his voice as he said the helm wasn't responding fast enough so I quickly popped the Jib sheet and dumped the wind from it and we righted immediately.Well, I didn't like bein so scared of sailing, so we hired a captain to take us out, make sure we're doing things right and find out if what we feared was broaching or laying down was really what it was or were we being paranoid.This captain was worthless! But thats a whole other story. We were able to recreated the situation and he said to just keep turning into or out of the wind and you'll only heel so far but then you'll be out of the wind and will right. We tried it and it felt like it was getting worse so I popped the jib again. Even HE looked nervous! When I asked if we would have layed down, he said "Well, it's possible, but in this boat you really couldn't." He didn't look very confident though. So he made us do it again and again I had to let the jib out a bit but we kept turning and came out of it. He then said "See? Just let the Jib out if your worried about it! But you won't lay this boat down." Again, he didn't seem very confident and seemed more scared than us! And I don't want to have to "Pop" The jib everytime we heel.My question(s): Can we lay down our Catalina 36' (with a 4'7" draft) in a 10-15 or even a 15-20mph wind... EVER????? By ever I mean, if we're not seasoned sailors, could we allow the boat to heel too much and lay down? Or can it NOT heel TOO much under regular wind condtions (meaning not hurricane or storm conditions)?What would it actually take to "lay it down"?Is it easier for a novice sailor to do under regular conditions (being clear skies and nice 10-15-20mph winds)?Please Someone help us to re-instill that confidence we had when we first got her! Right now we sail with just the jib and even that is scaring us as we approach a 15 Degree heel. We're even talking about selling her and we've only had her about 3 months. Anxiously awaiting a responsePaul