Raking the mast aft will increase weather helm
That is, if you already have weather helm (maybe). If you have too much sag in your head stay, you may actually find a lighter feel at the helm if you increase the backstay tension. There are so many dynamics involved that you will just get confused when the theoretical or predicted results don't match your actual observations. Keep an open mind when you make adjustments. There are so many inter-related and moving parts to a sailboat (and weather conditions that affect you rig), that you can't just isolate specific causes and effects in a vacuum. If your rig is out of whack, you may have ill-fitting sails, weather helm or lee helm, sagging forestay, lacking pre-bend or too much pre-bend, too much rake, or too little and probably a few other issues that I'm not thinking about right now.
Alex also makes a good point about the halyard knot versus a spliced end with a shackle. Do you have an old head sail? Perhaps measure the luff and compare with your new sail. Before you re-cut your head sail and/or give your sail maker hell for the wrong dimensions, I suggest making sure your rig is properly set up. It also doesn't hurt to make your own tweaks to the rig and go sailing. You'll learn all this stuff on your own, without getting a bunch of pre-conceived notions that may end up being misleading. Reading books is an excellent way to actually learn. Sometimes internet advise can be off-base merely by the lack of information (provided by you) and/or the inability to go into the depth of a topic that you will learn from the best books.
Start out with Don's Publications for sure, which you can purchase at the SBO store. Most of the info that you will pick up in this forum is influenced by his publications, and right on target to boot. It is very readable and understandable - dedicated to helping new sailors understand at a basic level and well beyond.
I really doubt that it is too complicated for you to understand. I think it is necessary to be less dogmatic about what you read or are told, and more reactive to your own observations. But you also have to be methodical in your experimentation to eliminate the confusion when you are making trial and error adjustments.