Sorry to hear both items, POTL.. No fun at all but usually better for everyone .. I had the divorce plopped on me back in '96.. as they say, my 401K got turned into a 201k.. but today I am a lot happier.. I know it is traumatic in the short term, but soon you'll find your smiles to be longer and more genuine ! Not being trite, just saying that there is light and levity at the end of the tunnel..Ya have some buddies to help ya thru.. Best to you.
The day mine became final, I was pretty much in the geographical center of the Gulf of Mexico.. sailing with some great buddies on a Sabre 38 .. They poured cheap wine on me and said it fitted my personality..