To answer your first question...
Flushing the tank till it runs out the vent does put a TINY amount of waste into the water...technically illegal, but so much less than even one direct flush as to be a non-issue to all but hardcore environmental zealots...and non-measurable against what runs off the shore every time it rains, or even the water in most marinas.As for those who insist that nothing should go down the toilet that hasn't been eaten first, except for landlubber guests, it's a totally unnecessary precaution, at least for those who know how to flush a marine toilet correctly and bother to maintain the system at all. Any marine toilet that's working even close to specs can easily handle a reasonable amount of the right kind of toilet paper (more on that later). Those who insist upon using premium TP, half a roll a flush, refuse to take a toilet apart to rebuild it unless the bowl is full and won't go down, or ignore sea water crystal buildup in hoses find themselves with clogged toilets, and look for anything to blame it on except their own negligence. A marine toilet has nothing in common with the one at home. The one at home has no working parts...a marine toilet is a complete system, including a mechanical or electric pump, plumbing and either a holding tank or a treatment device, or both. Like any piece of equipment, a marine toilet has limitations and requires periodic PREVENTIVE maintenance. Do it, and the odds you'll ever need repair drop from 100-1 to 1-100. As long as you use cheap insitutional toilet paper that almost dissolves in your hand when it gets wet (which is the same thing as "marine/rv" TP)--and don't use too much of it at a time (where is it written that you only get one flush per sitting?)-- and make sure to flush ALL the way through the system, any marine toilet that's working to specs can handle it. If you're in any doubt about whether a particular TP is suitable for use aboard, tear off a sheet a put it in a glass of water overnight. If it's still an intact, or nearly intact, sheet in the morning, don't use it on your boat...but if you stir the glass and all you see is "snow," any marine toilet can handle it just fine. ALL that said, landlubber guests are another issue. None of us want to give 'em a lecture on how a marine sanitation works--it's strengths and weaknesses, what it can swallow and what it can't--and besides, they won't remember it anyway. Landlubbers figure that anything the toilet at home can swallow, so can a marine toilet...they're totally incapable of understanding that there's a huge difference between the TP onboard and the Kleenex in their purse, and while I hate to admit it, women who haven't been MARINE potty trained seemed to be genetically programed to use half a roll a flush. So the safest line of defense is simply to show 'em how to flush it, and insist that NOTHING that doesn't pass through them goes into the toilet. That means keeping a little "pail" that has a lid and trap door, and some trash can liners that fit it in your dock locker to bring out and put in the head when landlubber guests are expected. Take the liner full of TP (and whatever) to the dumpster and put the pail back in the dock locker as soon as they leave. Unfortunately, any other course could find you taking apart your sanitation plumbing to extract a tampon...and if you think the idea of said pail is distasteful, you haven't lived until you've had to do that!