Last night we were sailing a Hunter 23.5 and the wind went to 20 mph in a small squall/rainstorm. Had to dump the main totally to keep the boat on its feet a little bit but the forestay was so slack that the jib was round as a spinnaker.
Can you put enough vang on to keep the forestay tight even when the main is flogging?
-wb-
it makes no difference what the wind speed is or what technique you use to sail, because even though that may or may not be a problem in itself, that is not the problem with your question....
If your mast is standing, your forestay should never be loose, with or without the mainsail or boom even attached to the mast.
when the mast is up the forestay pulls the mast tight against the shrouds. on some boats the backstay may come into play, but your forestay should always be tight.
To insure a proper rigging tension you should check the king post in the cabin under the mast to make sure its all sound, top and bottom as well as the bed for it. also make sure your deck at the tabernacle is not soft with core issues, then check to make sure the stemhead fitting and chainplates are sound and secure. if all these attachment/pressure points pass inspection you can then proceed to properly adjust the mast and tension the rigging (providing the stays themselves are in good order) so its fairly snug. using a gauge is the best way to do this, but even after tensioning it properly, it will probably need to be redone after a few hours of sailing or after it sets for a few days (usually readjusting only the forestay).... the rigging will pull the boat into shape and once it gets to the proper spot, it will "harden up" and stay there until the tension is removed from the rigging for a few hours. all boats are different, and depending on if you trailer sail or moor you boat, you will have to learn what is right and how your boat takes the strain... loose rigging is hard on a boat and equipment. properly tensioned rigging, even though it has lots of strain on it, is way easier on the boat and lets the boat handle and be handled like it was designed for....