So many questions, so little space to respond.
JBR,You have packed a lot into your response, so let me give you some theory so to give you some methods of decided which advice to follow...First, raking the mast. You have a small roller reefing system that attaches to the bow with a pin. Add a D shackle between the bottom of the furling and the bow attachment.Second, in heavy air while beating you have to make choices. Are you simply trying to survive or make the best speed to your target (VMG). If you want to survive, then raise the centerboard a bit, flatten the jib, twist off the main and you will be as depowered as it gets. This will cause you to slip sideways in the water and spill as much air as possible.If, however, you are interested in the best VMG then you must keep the center board down (reduce slipage), flatten the jib, use the mainsheet to crank in the main and hike like crazy. Dump the main with the mainsheet in the puffs to keep from going over.In my nine years of sailing the 18 foot Buccaneer at the national level (which has a fixed mounted mainsheet block, ie, no traveler) I NEVER used the vang while beating in heavy air. I always tryed to flatten the main(tight cunningham and outhaul) and use the mainsheet as the twist control.Let me recap the basics on making the main flat or full. Flat: tight cunningham and outhaul, loose vang. This moves the draft backwards. Full: Loose cunningham and outhaul and tight vang. This moves the draft forward and tightens the leach (making the sail like a balloon). This latter setting is great for downwind runs.Concerning the jib: Flat jib will reduce the slot, therefore backwinding the main. Fact of life. Two ways to reduce backwind on the main, first is to loosen the jib and the second is to move the boom to midship. In heavy wind when you are trying to depower you must flatten the jib and twist off the main. In this situation you will have to backwind the main.Concerning your point on a jib-traveler. Most boats have a jib-track that will allow the jib lead to be moved forward or aft to adjust the draft of the jib. If you don't have one, the only way to twist off the jib will be to furl the jib a little, This will change the angle of the jib lead, flatten the bottom of the sail and twist off the top. You must be able to move the jib lead aft (or the clew forward) in a blow to dump air off the top of the jib.Also, I would strongly suggest that you replace your jib turning blocks with ratchet blocks. Harken makes great blocks for this purpose. Ratchet blocks only rotate one-way. This will make the sail easy to pull in and hold and will be able to be let out by friction. While you are checking this out, look at the mainsheet ratchet blocks as well. It takes a lot less strength with these helpers.Hope this helps.