I can't add much to what's already been said
It's absolutely essential to add about 1/3 bowl of water with a cup to the bowl ahead of solids. I'm pretty sure that it's failure to do that that's upsetting your wife. However, sometimes 'intermediate flushing" MAY be required (in which case, you may need to rethink your diet)...be sure to add water ahead of use again.
As for TP...use ONLY quick dissolve TP. No reason to spend the money for TP labeled "marine/rv" 'cuz it's just the cheapest flimsiest TP repackaged and marked up about 4x. Too find out whether any TP is suitable for use in a marine toilet, tear off a sheet and put it in a glass of water....come back in an hour and stir the water. If the water is milky and all you see is a little "snow," it can be used in any marine toilet...if it's still an intact--or mostly intact--sheet, keep looking. And there's no reason not to flush it. 5-6 sheets is enough to do the job (women do have to be retrained to use only that much)...but even an overload of quick-dissolve TP is no reason to panic, 'cuz the stuff dissolves so quickly in water that any clog will dissolve on its own in less than hour. However, wet wipes, paper towels and--God forbid--tampons are another story. So it may be best to instruct you guests to flush only what they've eaten first and put the TP and EVERYTHING ELSE in the trash.
Don't even THINK of installing a macerator in the plumbing downstream of a manual or any other toilet that doesn't have one!!!
And finally...if the toilet is more than 5 years old and has never been rebuilt, it'll work a lot more efficiently if you put a rebuild or "service" kit in it. If it's at least 10 years old, it's prob'ly time to replace it. Compact manual toilets are designed to have only a 7-10 year life expectancy.