Such a personal Q, but...
I can tell you what we put on our 33. One the side this is our second boat, the first was a 290. We knew we wanted the 33 but could not make the move until this past season.We have 2 boys, 4 and 2, who LOVE the boat. We routinely spend nights on the boat, even staying on the boat when she is at the dock.For their safety we swear by jacklines. We don't have netting, but are going to get it one of these days. My options are: Mariner's pkg (like everything in it), and beefed up electronics. Our electronics are Raymarine C70 chartplotter, ST 60 pkg, with wind machine. Like the remote mic for the vhf. We listen to CDs and I like the stereo that was installed, we routinely sing and dance on the boat. We do not have a freezer (too much drain for extended sailing) but like the frig. We have a microwave for the admiral to cook stuff pierside. We use our delta anchor, but will replace it with a CQR very soon and keep it as a second anchor until a Bruce comes along. The electric windlass is nice. No dodger, but the bimini is solid and well built. We did get the engine upgrade and 3-bladed prop-the boat sings compared to our 290-docking is a breeze. My personal favorite "other" items (that we have) are In-mast furling, second battery (a must, and if you want the freezer/reefer you will need more power), a Link 10 monitoring system to allow easy monitoring of battery levels (again a definite must for us), and a portable DVD player that uses 12V dc (we bought an Audiovox system for the car with a second screen), and finally a bbq/propane grill that is mounted on the rail. We have not done fancy modifications because the boat fits us and our sailing style so well.My personal feeling is to avoid ac/heat, it is not needed and ends up being a huge power drain.Our dealer was fantastic in the whole process as well.Most important to us was matching what we wanted/needed with our intended current and future uses of the boat.Would gladly send you pictures of our boat and answer anything else: crowe1212@cox.netGood luck and I am 110% sure that you will love this boat.