No Easy Answer
JR,Wow...never an easy answer...1. Wife - same thing with my spouse. The way around it; got her private sailing lessons WITH SOMEONE ELSE! Once she gained confidence (without marriage dynamics) about sailing, how to control heeling, etc., she no longer had any problems with heeling. 2. I own a swing keel as well. There is so much that goes into controlling heeling (wind, amount of sail, trim, point of sail, sea state, etc.) that it is hard to simplify. Once of the best I've ever heard is "if it doesn't feel comfortable then don't do it." But I think it would be fair to say (and I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong) that anything over 15 knots wind is going to lead to some kind of heeling on almost every point of sail. Anything 20 knots or above you ought not be out unless you are equipped to deal with reefing, storm jibs, and the like. Somehow, your wife does not strike me as someone who would look out at whitecaps and think it was good sailing weather.3. Summary - Have your wife take lessons and get comfortable. Sail in your comfort zone.SJK SENDS