First of all, it's close HAULED, not hulled. The diagram that Merlinuxo posted decribes "points of sail" and are based on TRUE wind direction. It may help you initially set your sails.... but you must understand that sails are ultimately trimmed to APPARENT wind direction.
Learning the difference between APPARENT wind and TRUE wind speed and direction is very basic to sailing... again, it is very important that you understand the difference and how it affects your sailing experience.
Your wind indicator, whether it is a vane at the masthead, a piece of yarn tied to the shrouds, or the back of your neck... gives you APPARENT wind info... the apparent wind direction is affected by boat speed and windspeed.. so you can be on a beam reach (where true wind direction is at 90 deg) but the wind indicator may be pointing well forward, giving you the impression that you are close hauled.
So, rather than try and present a primer on sailing.... I recommend, again, that you invest in a few good sailing instuctional books and video's, even better sign up for some sailing classes. There are free instructional classes online.... USSailing.org offers one.... there's plenty of stuff on YouTube also. The important thing is to start at the beginning a progress through the course... then go back through it again... concentrating on the parts that you feel will help you most...
The crux of your experience is that, as many beginners do, you think that there's too much to do at once, so you try to "steer" your way out of trouble. A little experience and attention to basics will change your attitude... so that soon, instead of jamming the stick to leeward when the boat heels too much for your liking, you will simply ease the sheet and gently steer upwind(or in some cases, downwind) until the boat is upright.