David- I feel your pain. I suffered with the galley valve that was extremely hard to turn. Last year I replaced all of my sink hoses (OEM hose not rated for below water line use- see my post about that issue) and for the galley I needed to replace the straight hose barb with a 90 degree ell. I ended up breaking the thru-hull seal so I just removed the entire valve and thru-hull. I replaced the backing plate with a 1/2" fiberglass circle that I epoxied to the hull with West System. I then used a Groco thru-hull adapter with NPS threads on the bottom and NPT threads on the top for a proper match to the thru-hull threads and the ball valve.
I was going to replace the ball valve because it was so hard to operate, but I found that new ones were even harder to operate! So I soaked the valve in PB blaster for a couple weeks working it at every opportunity. Finally, it began to operate freely.
Now I can open and close the valve with the tips of my fingers and it is now the easiest operating valve I have.
I have never been successful in greasing any of the Apollo valves. I have tried several years with different kinds of grease and oils and nothing has worked to free them.
I have no idea how long these valves are expected to last, but based upon the amount of work to replace one with the right backing plate and thread adapter, I am inclined to replace on an as-needed basis. If I lived close to my boat and could work on this over the winter, then I might make a upgrade project and replace or re-work all of the valves.
The pictures below show the original galley hose and thru-hull and my new installation-