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Old Sailing Friend swallowing the anchor

Discussion in 'Ask All Sailors' started by Bad Obsession, Dec 6, 2018 at 3:52 PM. Add this thread to a FAQ

  1. Bad Obsession

    Bad Obsession

    Joined May 23, 2004
    3,286 posts, 106 likes
    N/A N/A
    US Colonial Beach
    My Uncle and Aunt spent a lot of time sailing the Chesapeake Bay area. It is his fault that I was bit by the cruising bug. I learned a lot of my knowledge on cruising from him. They have sailed to just about every corner in the Chesapeake Bay. Because they had a job that allowed it, college professors, they would often spend weeks and sometimes as long as a month out before they would go home for a week to make sure the house was okay and then go back out again. They have been doing this since I was 8 years old and he is the first person who took me sailing.

    When I was doing a lot of my cruising in my last three sailboats I would often meet up with them in various places. We really liked hanging out at Solomons Island, Smith Creek, Prices Cove, and numerous other places.

    I received a call last week that was sad to hear. He stated that he is putting his boat on the market. He and my Aunt feel like they are getting upwards in age and their confidence is suffering. He said it was a hard decision that they wrestled with for quite sometime. I understand what he is saying but it still hurts in some ways.

    I knew that this day was coming. I was hoping to get my next boat while they were still cruising and have a few more memorable raft-ups. While they were out cruising and I was stuck at work I would often call them to warn them of weather that was approaching or just to hear what they were up to.

    With my daughter being almost 5 months I am hopeful that she will enjoy sailing. I want to get her out sailing sooner than later but I am thinking that this season isn't the right time. Maybe next season will work out. Who knows but I can see that my buying budget will be pretty low, under about $9,000 most likely. I will stay small but not too small as my last cruising boat proved that I require a diesel, standing headroom, a separate head, and I prefer a wheel.

    I guess my point is that Finally II, my Uncle's boat, will be on the market soon. He will no longer be cruising the Bay and that is a sad day. It reminds me of when I learned that Java Jim Seamans was no longer going to be sailing either (I miss him being out there too). Really, it takes some of the wind out of your sails to see friends that you sail with, meet up with, and enjoy no longer sailing.

    Anyone else have similar thoughts?

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  2. Whatfiero1


    Joined Mar 29, 2017
    220 posts, 40 likes
    Hunter 30t
    US littlecreek
    Wait. What. So you buying Finally 2. And since he your uncle is he giving you a sweet payment plan

  3. Bad Obsession

    Bad Obsession

    Joined May 23, 2004
    3,286 posts, 106 likes
    N/A N/A
    US Colonial Beach
    I wish but she is far out of my budget these days. The $1000 a month daycare is eating me alive these days.

  4. Crazy Dave Condon

    Crazy Dave Condon

    Joined Jun 8, 2004
    6,849 posts, 649 likes
    -na -NA
    US Anywhere USA
    From left to right
    Crazy Dave, Laura, Bad obsession and Joan Seamons(Mrs. Java). I too miss Stan and Jim Seamons. Taken at memorial service for Jim. Sad day to loose a good friend.

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  5. Bad Obsession

    Bad Obsession

    Joined May 23, 2004
    3,286 posts, 106 likes
    N/A N/A
    US Colonial Beach
    Man, the raft-ups that I had with Jim were way too much fun. He was a live wire. He is a legend and his name will be spoken around the East Coast in the Sailing community for years!!

  6. Crazy Dave Condon

    Crazy Dave Condon

    Joined Jun 8, 2004
    6,849 posts, 649 likes
    -na -NA
    US Anywhere USA
  7. jssailem


    Joined Oct 22, 2014
    7,213 posts, 2,750 likes
    CAL 35 Cruiser
    US Salem, Moored Port Everett WA
    Sorry to hear the news. May your Christmas be a Merry one.

  8. Tally Ho

    Tally Ho

    Joined Jan 7, 2011
    1,153 posts, 197 likes
    Oday 322
    US East Chicago, IN
    What kind of boat? Sorry if I missed your avatar before.

    Sad day for sure,


  9. Bad Obsession

    Bad Obsession

    Joined May 23, 2004
    3,286 posts, 106 likes
    N/A N/A
    US Colonial Beach
    They are selling their Catalina 34. They have had her for quite some time. Before that they had a Catalina 27 and that boat logged some serious mileage on the Chesapeake Bay. I think that they had the 27 for over 20 years.

    Not sure what I will get when I get another sailboat. Budget will likely be under 10k so it will be a smaller cruiser. I know that I want a separate enclosed head, standing headroom, and a diesel.

  10. capta


    Joined Jun 4, 2009
    2,805 posts, 886 likes
    Pearson 530
    na Admiralty Bay, Bequia SVG
    You certainly don't look all that crazy!

  11. Crazy Dave Condon

    Crazy Dave Condon

    Joined Jun 8, 2004
    6,849 posts, 649 likes
    -na -NA
    US Anywhere USA
    Crazy was given to me and I kept it for marketing purposes and it worked. Am I crazy to launch large boats with a crane over a bulkhead or bridges. Yes in a way but developed the skills quickly first with smaller boats and then larger. There is a lot learned but due to liability, I never will show or disclose how I did it as I do not want people to ask how from me.

  12. JamesG161


    Joined Feb 14, 2014
    3,310 posts, 1,096 likes
    Hunter 430
    US Waveland, MS
    Look deeply into his eyes and watch him "hypnotize you" into buying a boat.:cowbell:

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  13. Will Gilmore

    Will Gilmore

    Joined Oct 19, 2017
    3,477 posts, 1,602 likes
    O'Day 19
    US Littleton, NH
    My father has always been my hero. He's one of the greatest sailors I've ever met. He raised us three boys to the sea and we lived aboard for nearly 4 years when I was a kid. After resettling in the mountains of NH when I started high school, he continued to pursue his love of sailing. He started solo sailing and began sailing across the Atlantic until he eventually settled on a boat he thought was good for his round the world sail. The Old Man was often off on a sail to Europe or the Caribbean, my mother flying out to join him on one or two legs of a sail. He'd invite us to join him in one port or another. We'd sail a little with him.
    He began entering races and regattas, doing very well. Sometimes even beating professional sailors in racing designs. He'd get lucky or was a canny tactician catching wind and avoiding wind shadows that others who should have known better missjudged.

    When he got back from his circumnavigation, he soon decided enough of the sailing. Not long after that he gave up rock and ice climbing. He motorcycled across Europe, with old friends across the country, with my older brother to Alaska. After a couple of major spills he traded in his Victory for a jeep and called it his quad to one-up a friend who rode a trike.
    Watching him succumb to bad knees and pain, giving up the former activities that he loved so much in favor of more cerebral pursuits was like experiencing the end of an era for me.

    Today, he's on day four of a hospital stay for a moderate stroke. He had advanced directives not to perform heroic efforts to stay alive. He has a bad heart and had taken himself off all his heart and bp meds for several years prior to the stroke. We had to discuss the possibility that he wouldn't want a pace maker. The do nothing course was suggested to offer him at most, 3 months to live. Getting on to blood thinners would extend that to six months. A pacemaker could give the 83 year old man another 10 years or so. My mother has been amazingly strong. Luckily, he is recovering especially well and has been deemed competent to make his own decisions and the pace maker is looking like it isn't even necessary. He was still going to the gym for weight training 3 times a week.

    He is friends with Webb Childs and has met and known other great sailors. His old friend Clark Mills even made it into the Sailor's Hall of Fame (I think they asked my mother to provide some pictures).

    My greatest hope and wish is to get him out on Dragonfly for his first sail in over 4 years. I have a lot of work to do this Winter. I'll get there though.

    It is the end of an era.

    -Will (Dragonfly)

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